- Ryan Choy
There're no Answers in "What If" or "If Only"
It is merely the possibility of a reality in your mind - a reality that doesn't exist.
Whether it’s self-help books, or “inspirational quotes” and the like, there’s a recurring theme that my wife pointed out to me: “Just don’t care too much about anything else or what people say, and do what you want to do.” I’ll refine that by saying that you are in control of your own life. Don’t be frustrated by things and people you can’t control. Don’t think or worry that things that may not happen, and don’t think about “what if” or “if only”; those scenarios don’t exist.
Be conscious of your thoughts and actions. Catch yourself when you know you’re being negative or paranoid (because you’d already know what your strengths and weaknesses are).
There’s a lot about life to enjoy and we’re only here for a short while so don’t waste time thinking about things you don’t have when you can cherish and maximise what you do have.
The Grass is Never Greener
To me, the grass is never greener on the other side. Maybe it looks greener from where you’re at, but you’ll find that once you get there, there’s a whole set of different variables, both good and bad - it’s never greener on the other side, it's another colour, or facing a different view; it’s not better, it’s different.
I used to ask myself, that I wonder what it’s like if I had never quit my job to start Faire Leather Co., if I had stayed in Australia to do my honours or if I had just spent more time with my mother, where would I be in life? Would I have been richer, happier and with lesser regrets? But like I said, those scenarios don’t exist. What exists is now, and right now, I know who I am, I know what I have and I don’t wish to be anywhere else but here - This is my world, this is my reality. We all have our own, and I invite all of you to explore it.